I'm a student in Manchester, 2nd year (well first, took year out).
I broke up with a guy i met in school by sheer chance we connected and got together.
Very good looking, funny and got on well with all my friends.
If he wasn't so self-hating with family issues it might've worked out! My problem is everyone assumes i am straight and i'm not very good at broadcasting otherwise.
If you're not a good match (and dates are like new restaurants; about one in eight survive), you're both going to share that awkward moment of "Do I un-friend him or keep reading about his 'Why do I always meet losers? Four: Even though gay men love to label everyone, they despise being labeled.
So whether he's a Bear, Twink, Twunk, Cub, Daddy, Dilf, Otter, Chub, Gym Rat, Gym Bunny, or any of the other zillion names we give one another, only address him in generic terms, like handsome, sexy, hung.
Can anyone who's been there tell me i'm wrong i don't know?
The LGBT Society (now Q, whatever that means) seems a bit political and tbh i'm uncomfortable being lumped in with people who have 'gender identity' issues. I'm a decent looking bloke I think and am a pretty confident speaker with a bit of intelligence, but i'm worrying that my ex was a fluke.
I feel if that puts me off, it probably puts my type off.
I’m not claiming to know everything, but this is a conversation that needs to start through both a queer lens and a feminist perspective. Sure, marriage equality is now becoming a reality in a majority of the United States; however, same-sex marriage legislation is not the only issue queer people face.
In fact, I’d venture to say that same-sex marriage isn’t even the most important so-called “Gay Issue.” It’s just the most publicized one.
I have chosen to write this piece because I have known and loved many queer men throughout my life.
Researching and writing this piece led to some candid, revealing conversations with my queer male friends; I also realized that this topic affects many queer men and needs to be addressed.