As gay men the testosterone levels are doubled in the dating world, and we are constantly playing with fire as we try to think with our brains and not our dicks. With “dating” app culture running amok, gay men by far have the easiest outlets to look for sex. All the “normal” expectations of our straight counterparts are a lot less expected, and we find ourselves craving the single life one day, and looking for the love of our life the next.
Add to the fact that when we go to gay bars, almost everyone in that room is a possible partner in some way, and our chances are doubled. Additionally, many of us grew up insecure and full of shame, so part of coming out is feeling sexually liberated. Who, if we do meet, we most likely end up sleeping with, and confusing the relationship further. It’s a vicious cycle, and truly causes so many dating problems.
Translation: the guy is interested in only white or Hispanic men and doesn’t want any black or Asian guys to message him.
The phrasing itself is pretty tame compared to some other profiles on the app.
Having a “type” is not a new thing but more dating apps now like The League, Once, and Scruff are letting users search by ethnicity which gives them the option to filter out a particular ethnic group.
However, we often mistake the ease and casualness of the sex we can, and do have, as something other than what it really is. Thus it’s beyond difficult to meet someone we’re attracted to in every way, and keep our pants on. As gay men we grow up hiding parts of ourselves because gay still is considered different, and in a lot of places, bad.
While this may read like your friend’s extremely vague contribution to the lunch order it’s an actual description from a Grindr profile, the popular gay dating app with over six million members.
We have all been through our fair share of dating blunders, pitfalls and disasters.
If you are single, it is easy to get discouraged after a few too many dating disappointments.