She continues because the feelings she has are too strong. But I would be careful in how you deliver your feelings. Outline your concerns but let your daughter know you love and support her and that it is only natural for you to be worried.Recognize the powerful grip the 25 yr old has and that is normal. I would try and create a containment bubble around a situation you have limited control over but in reality you do have a way to contain the situation. Reinforce her education about the risks of getting pregnant and maybe set some soft rules like 'education comes first' Maybe she is in sixth form. It could be that the relationship is successful but if something goes wrong be sure she knows you are there for her if things collapse.Pretty sure Amythest Schaber and her husband of "Ask an Autistic" You Tube fame fall under or near that category & they seem to be a wonderful, happy, healthy couple.As with any situation where the potential for manipulation or coercion exist though, I'd say it has to be decided on a couple-by-couple basis.
I know its only 8 years difference but it's the difference between him being at an age where he must be thinking about starting a family, marriage, etc and her starting out in life. Do I let them get on with it or should I try to explain my above concerns at the risk of pushing them together? Based on the logic, it shows that "Reductio ad absurdum." I was 19 and ran off with a 27 year old woman from America. My mother disowned me and we didn't speak for a year. I was reckless and foolish and as an adult 20 years later I can easily recognize this.
And from those, people seem to enjoy projecting it onto every large-age-difference couple. I kind of weirds me out a little, and my parents even had the 10 year gap, my father was 27/28 and my mother was 17/18 when they first met, I was born when my mother was 23.
I'd never go for someone that young, but I guess whatever floats their boat, they're both legal and it's not like she's being forced into it.
Without those weightier responsibilities, Millennial boys (or, for the most part, the ones I've encountered) are living this suspended fratboy mentality.
Thus, we ladies have looked to older men to fulfill those more grown-up needs.